Why God? Why?

Today I share a post, with y’all, from my “Uncle Tyler.” He is not my uncle by blood, but he is my uncle in every way other than that. And before I share his post, let me give you a little history. Tyler is my dad’s best friend. His wife’s name is Marlene and they had four children, Angela (9), Amanda (8), Andrea (6) and Tyler (4). Tyler, Marlene and all of the children were on their way over to our house on December 28, 1984.


We had a snow play day planned and we could hardly wait!  Grievously, they did not arrive safely. They were in a severe car accident and at only seven years old, I can still remember the day like it was yesterday. I remember where I was when the phone rang, what I was watching on TV, what it looked like outside, and everything about that week leading up to the funeral. Marlene, Tyler and Angela lived; sorrowfully, Amanda, Andrea and “little” Tyler died on that unwelcome day in December.  Sometimes in life things happen that you don’t understand. You question God. You don’t understand why.  The pain is unbearable. How can anyone get through something so horrific?

The following is a Facebook post from my Uncle Tyler.  I pray that his testimony brings comfort and peace to you and yours on this day, especially if you are in that season in your life where you are lamenting, “Why God? Why?”


Photo borrowed from www.watermark.org

“Twenty nine years ago yesterday three of our children entered heaven and we didn’t know why, so many unanswered questions. Then that small voice, do you trust me? Divine providence and perfect timing God replaced the three He took home, and then gave us an extra one. Their birthdays are the same months and only days apart except the last one (8th child 8th month). Hence… We know that all things work together for the good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose.  Romans 8:28. The message is…


Let go…

and Trust…”

Such incredible words of wisdom from a man who had every reason to terminate his relationship with God, but preferably chose to trust Him anyway!  Uncle Tyler and Aunt Marlene were later graciously blessed with four more amazing children: Althea, Isaiah, Alicia and Alanna. Their birth dates, listed below, are a testament to God’s faithfulness!!

Angela – January 15

(Amanda – December 20)
Alicia – December 24

(Andrea – May 4 )
Althea –  May 2

(Tyler – April 25)
Isaiah – April 19

Alanna – August 30

My immediate family and I are closer than ever to their family (though I live very far away) and at 36 years old I still think about Amanda, Andrea and Tyler often and talk about them too. I recognize the unimaginable strength of my Aunt and Uncle who were regrettably dealt a pitiful deck of cards, but through it all they never lost their faith (though I am sure in those dark days and years immediately after the accident the flame was barely lit). They look to the cross, are embraced by our Heavenly Father and they trust in our one and only Savior, Jesus Christ! I look forward to the day I get to heaven. I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that Amanda, Andrea and Tyler, along with all of my loved ones who have passed on before, will be gathered at the pearly gates, anxiously waiting to welcome me in!

John 14:1-4

“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going.”


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